No One WANTS to be a Disappointment

Earlier in the week I wrote about having to tell people that I didn't get a job. I think I made some people feel like pests and others like they were sorry they had asked. It wasn't meant like that at all. Trust me when I tell you, when you are facing a challenge, like this one, it is nice to know you have people on your side. This week has been a reminder that I don't just have people .. I have a virtual village. 

I've gotten phone calls, texts, and emails with really sweet and sincere things. Really kind, thoughtful and sincere things.

"They made a mistake"

"They lost out on a someone who would have been a great employee"

"WTH ... they are idiots" [this might have been my favorite]

"WHAT ... that sucks" 

"OMG .. I can't believe that"

See it is nice to have a cheering squad and what is nicer is that with technology today you don't have to talk to every single person. It also means that you can save the really funny ones and re-read them when you are having a low moment. 

So the reason that it is so hard to tell people that you didn't get the job is because they ARE on your side, because they ARE pulling for you, and because you want so badly to "reward" their love, support and loyalty by being a success. When you have to tell them that you didn't get the job, you worry that you are a disappointment and no one wants to be a disappointment.